It often takes several weeks before I’m ready to try dating again

As for that man who blocked you, here’s the lesson: He might have been super excellent on paper and in messages, but that doesn’t always translate to being right for you in real life. Just remember that some of the people who don’t check every box – or might not be able to pull off good FaceTime – might be really great in person. I know you probably know that, but sometimes it helps to be reminded.

Romantic Idolization

And as you can guess, as Internet use exploded, many of the old stigmas associated with its use also quickly evaporated. Once the younger generations joined the dating scene via their laptop computers and later their ubiquitous smart phones, the stigma associated with using such dating sites almost completely disappeared. I would guess that once a television commercial about computer dating appeared during the Super Bowl, the jig was up. Today there are television ads for dating sites at all hours of the day and night.

A second reason that online dating may lead to a drop in divorce rates is because people using them “are more in tune with what they are looking for,” says Cecily Gold Moore. Moore commented this about her research:

My Two Experiences with Online Dating

What percentage of people meet through online dating?

After I was finished eating, I stayed and interacted with the teenage party-goers. After all, I already knew some of them, and as a social psychologist, I enjoyed hearing about their plans for their futures. I stayed and mingled with these teens until eventually I had to use the restroom.

Although I wasn’t personally interested in online dating for myself, this experience did pique my interest in the trend. I learned that at the time, it was an up-and-coming way of meeting people for dates.

If you read my post from April, you may have noticed that I mentioned a relationship not working out that I really hoped would. Fast forward a few months and we’re dating again…but this isn’t the post you may be expecting.

I’m afraid I don’t have a great ‘lesson learned’ or pithy ending. It didn’t really occur to me to actually write about this until I was talking with a friend earlier today, lamenting over the challenges of dating and how I don’t really know of people facing the same issues, and she encouraged me to blog about it and share my experience with others (in the hopes that if there’s anybody else out there facing similar things, you’d know you have a friend in me). I’m working on taking one day at a time and reminding myself that I don’t have to know all the answers right this moment, I don’t have to have the 5-year-plan laid out today, and it’s ok to sit in the tension of the unknown. And, I think, the biggest takeaway for right now is that this relationship can still be good regardless of the outcome. Because we’re both actively working to date each other well, to keep God at the center of our relationship, and to help each other grow in our walks with Him, no matter how things end up, it will still be a successful relationship. I can only continue to look to God in all of the moments (those of happiness, of sadness, of doubt, and of hopefulness and excitement for the future) and persevere in seeking His will.

One thing to remember is that you can take breaks. I truly believe that when you’re feeling this way – when you want to throw your phone across the room because you’re so sick of swiping – you should ignore the apps for a bit. Even though Bumble is available to you 24 hours a day, you can ignore it and start again when you’re feeling fresh.